A perfect reminder for all of us.
You deserve someone who wants you, only you, and makes you feel wanted. Someone who can’t help but message you first thing in the morning when the sun light is slow-dancing through the curtain, and they’re barely waking. Someone who wants to spend their Friday nights with you, but also their lazy lemonade Sundays. Someone who holds their one-person umbrella right above you when it’s bucketing down, so that you’re sheltered, even if it means they get soaked through. You deserve someone who thinks of you, often. Someone who calls you on the phone at the end of a long day, because they want to hear the sound of your voice before they drift off into slumber. Someone who makes plans with you on a Tuesday evening, because the weekend is just too far away, and who cares if we have to go to work the next day.
Breakfast of Champions
Doesn’t this chia pudding look delicious for breakfast this morning? 😊
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She Will Move Mountains
Change that to the end of a very long week, and that was me last night. I took a hot shower and crawled between the sheets and then proceeded to sleep for the next 11 hours straight. Ahh, pure heaven. It’s no secret that I love my bed and I highly value getting enough sleep. I see it as a vital part of good self-care. Eat well, exercise, mediate, and sleep enough.
Just Do It
I must have a warped sense of humor, because I laughed so hard at this. Especially the “make everyone around you super uncomfortable” part. 😂 I know lots of the stretching/mobility/glute work I do looks rather…odd. That’s okay though, because it works. Also, the great thing about being old is that you just don’t care what other people think. Like Nike says, just do it.
Get Big
I recently had an acquaintance comment that I was getting too muscular. Ha! There are only two people allowed to have an opinion on how my body looks: me and me 😊
But seriously, Why does it seem okay for some people to comment negatively on fit/strong/slim people’s bodies, but if you say something to an overweight person it’s fat-shaming? Neither one is okay. I think it’s rude for anyone to make unsolicited negative comments about anyone else’s body. I try to remind myself that when people judge MY body it is almost always just an extension of their own dissatisfaction with THEIR bodies. I.e., people who are totally cool with how their own bodies look and work don’t give a care about how mine looks. Why would they care? They have better things to think about! So be psyched about your muscles if you love them! They are YOURS.
Blink If You Want Me
My current workout programs has me lifting 6 days a week. Which means going to the gym 6 days a week, even Friday. Before this I hadn’t been to the gym on a Friday night in years. Now I remember why. Apparently, it’s singles night. I had no idea that if you’re at the gym on a Friday night it means that you don’t have a life/boyfriend/husband. I’ve been hit on less at bars and parties. I just want to be left alone and do my workout in peace. So, being the creative thinker that I am, I came up with a plan. Rent-a-guy. I texted my friend Dave and asked if he’d be my boyfriend. Just for tonight. Just at the gym. He laughed, said all those conditions I was putting on it made it a lot less appealing. 😂 But he’s a good guy, so he went along with it. It worked out perfectly. Not one gym creeper bothered me all evening, and as a bonus I had a spotter for my bench press. 😁
Feel the Music
Did you ever want it?
Did you want it bad?
Oh, my
It tears me apart
Did you ever fight it?
All of the pain, so much power
Running through my veins
Bleeding, I’m bleeding
My cold little heart
Oh I, I can’t stand myself
And I know
In my heart, in this cold heart
I can live or I can die
I believe if I just try
You believe in you and I
In you and I
In you and I
In you and I
Life Imitates Art
Remember this skit from SNL last fall? Life imitating art, and frighteningly so. We all know Cheeto doesn’t care about dead Syrian children, so what’s the impetus here?
I never thought I’d agree with Senator Rand Paul, but what he said last night was spot on.
Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.) said Thursday night that President Trump needs congressional authorization for military action in Syria after Trump ordered an airstrike in retaliation for a deadly chemical attack earlier this week.
“While we all condemn the atrocities in Syria, the United States was not attacked,” Paul said in a statement shortly after reports that the U.S. had launched more than 50 Tomahawk cruise missiles against an airfield in Syria.
“The President needs congressional authorization for military action as required by the Constitution, and I call on him to come to Congress for a proper debate,” Paul said. “Our prior interventions in this region have done nothing to make us safer, and Syria will be no different.”
Habit vs. Intent
While all intention is unique in its content, there’s a pattern and sequence–steps that repeat. If we learn these, our lives change. We manifest change in our lives with frictionless flow.
Seek desire. Genuine desires often defy logic and make no sense, making it easy for us to dismiss them as a passing whim. But beginning with desire, responding to the creative energy that comes from within can lend itself to being unafraid of going after what we truly want.
Express yourself. Beginning a statement with “I intend to…” creates a moment of purpose and is much clearer that “I may…” With our language, both internal and external, we send a signal. Be clear, direct and speak with kindness.
Be decisive. Making decisions isn’t easy for some people and even the most decisive people need support now and then. To realize our intentions, we need to make decisions. Don’t be afraid to give or receive advice and suggestions. Talk through possibilities.
Release control. There are those moments when we need to step aside and get out of our own way. When we are following our true selves, it feels like life is flowing along. We choose our battles with ease and obstacles dissolve.
Let go. This can be a huge challenge for me and one where we most likely trip up. Stubbornness can lead us to believe that our plan is the only one. Be open to being surprised. Let go and allow our intent to unfold. Be flexible with your preferences. Stay alert, keep our eyes open and enjoy the dance!
If You Forget Me {Poetry}
I want you to know
one thing.
You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.
Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.
If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.
If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.
But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.
Fresh Air
Every winter I forget just how good a dose of fresh air and sunshine can make me feel. And every spring, I remember again. 😊
It was a lovely spring day today, and we rode 22 miles, ate lunch outside, drank dirty hippies (chai tea with espresso) at a quaint little café, and generally enjoyed the day. I’m exhausted and my contacts are covered with pollen, but I feel wonderful.
The Winds of Change
I feel those winds of change a-blowing. I don’t know in what way just yet, but I feel it. Do you ever have that sense? It’s a strange sensation when it’s so vague and nebulous. But, hey, it is what it is. Change can be a good thing, if we let it be. I have been feeling boxed in and really dissatisfied with many aspects of my life, so perhaps change is in order.
We live in difficult times. Life sometimes seems like a roiling and turbulent river threatening to drown us and destroy the world. Why, then, shouldn’t we cling to the certainty of the shore, and to our familiar patterns and habits? Because, as Pema Chödrön teaches, that kind of fear-based clinging keeps us from the infinitely more satisfying experience of being fully alive. The teachings she presents that are known as the “Three Commitments” provide a wealth of wisdom for learning to step right into the river: to be completely, fearlessly present even in the hardest times, the most difficult situations. When we learn to let go of our protective patterns and do that, we begin to see not only how much better it feels to live that way, but, as a wonderful side effect, we find that we begin to naturally and effectively reach out to others in care and support.
